Does your spouse know all of your guitars?

[bonzoboy]

I used to go out with a girl who was very manipulative-or at least she tried to be.A couple of my buddies and I started jamming together again with the hopes of getting another band off the ground.When I told her this she told me that if I started playing in a band,she would leave me,fully expecting me to beg her change her mind or to give up the idea of starting a band.She was completely shocked when I told her that she knew all along what a huge part of my life musioc was and how important it was to me. It was then that I told her that I could never live with someone who didn't support me in the most important thing in my life and she never brought the subject up after,in fact that Christmas she gave me a Yamaha CS-01 Mini Synth.I believe that a few posts ago Milod recounted a similar incident that he had.

[retrosurfer1959]

I would never sneak anything past my wife let let alone something as minimal as a Guitar. She's my partner and we support each other in everything and were working on 32 years together why would I ever put that at risk with a lie? plus if I really wanted a guitar she would do everything in her power to make sure it happened. That said I probably could hell I have so many guitars I'm surprised sometimes when I open a case. I lied to my wife once when we were first married and it wasn't that kind of a lie. I told her a call-out wasn't dangerous one night when I knew I was going after a man that had sworn he would never be arrested alive. I lied because I didn't want her to worry and hell I thought I was invincible. It went bad he meant what he said so I had to see my wife's face in the hospital when another officer went and picked her up to get her there before I went into surgery the look on her face was enough to cure me of ever telling her less than 100% of the truth I would expect it from her so she should be able to expect it from me.

[charlie brown]

Yeah, "lying" always comes back on you, sooner or later, and usually the

consequences are worse, than if you'd just told the truth, to begin with!

It's really not worth it, IMHO.

 

CB

[milod]

bonzo...

 

The girlfriend whose ultimatum was refused stopped being a girlfriend. My wife had been a longtime friend - and neither of us are ultimatumers. <grin>

 

Retro...

 

Yeah, the old Garth Brooks song "Beaches of Cheyenne" is a metaphor for what you're talking about. I wish more young folks, both boys and girls, would listen to it, to kinda figure what it means... A bull rider drew a "bull no man could ride ... he promised her he'd turn out (not ride that bull in that rodeo), but it turned out that he lied..." She, OTOH, said if you ride, I'm gone. He did; she realized what she said and... walked into the ocean...

 

I hope any younger guys hearing your story (I have somewhat similar ones, but without the adverse outcome) listen well.

 

m

[cjsinla]

Can I trade my wife for your new girlfriend . Seriously my wife is major hot on what I buy, and don't buy. Maybe that's a good thing, I would probably ruin us financially if she didn't.

 

You could be right, I just bought 5 new guitars in the last 6 months. Once again, I have to slow my role.