Tim Plains Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Any advice? Is the world as I know it going to abruptly end? I know one thing's for sure...no more high end guitars for a while after I say those dreaded words...
stickman Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I've been married 21 years....i don't remember what it was like not to be married. Good luck brother.
Bluemoon Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Just make sure you make all your high-end purchases before you get married.
KSG_Standard Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Congratulations! Life doesn't end when you get married...you just wish it would...Just kidding, life just gets better when your married.
surfpup Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I think I suggested this once before, Tim.... separate bank accounts. One less thing to fight about. Agree on a way to split bills/expenses -- or even do one joint account for common expenses if need be -- but avoid the one giant pot scenario. Then she's not upset by your gear purchases and you are not bothered by the number of purses she needs.
surfpup Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 life just gets better when your married. Assuming you've picked the right woman, life gets immeasurably better. If you have not, it gets immeasurably worse. :) I'm sure you've done your homework. Congratulations and best wishes.
wicked1 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I remember getting married. We sat down at a roulette table, I looked at my ring and said: It's sucking my will to live!!! Since then, I've had the pleasure of Homz forgetting either my birthday or our anniversary for most of our married life. Word to the wise--"it's my anniversary too" is not a particularly good excuse for completely forgetting it.
dem00n Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Congratulations! Life doesn't end when you get married...you just wish it would...Just kidding' date=' life just gets better when your married.[/quote']Someone has a gun to their head.
retrosurfer1959 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 CONGRATS - If your lucky it could be the best thing youve ever done. Nope life doesn't end with marriage not even close, I married my best friend and couldn't be happier she truly is the first thing I want to see in the morning and the last thing I want to see before I go to bed. As far as money and buying things like guitars depends on the woman. My wife knows I love guitars and thinks that as far as addictions it's a pretty non-evasive one, she has learned a ton about guitars can tell almost any brand by sight and most by sound, she's a perfect person to take guitar shopping since she has a good ear and definite educated opinions on tone, sustain and overall sound. She's also at an executive level herself and doesn't need my money and in fact has purchased several guitars as gifts or just when she sees something she knows I would love. As an example it was her that found and purchased my 71 recording model knowing I was looking for one. I know it sounds like I'm a happy newlywed and in some ways I am but were celebrating the 26th anniversary next month with a trip to Hawaii... Hmmm KOA
deepblue Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Good luck Timbo....Just be prepared to lose every argument from now on. Ill be waiting for my invite in the mail buddy! *wink*
retrosurfer1959 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I remember getting married. We sat down at a roulette table' date=' I looked at my ring and said: It's sucking my will to live!!! Since then, I've had the pleasure of Homz forgetting either my birthday or our anniversary for most of our married life. Word to the wise--"it's my anniversary too" is not a particularly good excuse for completely forgetting it. [/quote'] Mrs Homz makes a very good point about not missing the romance holidays of the anniversary and her birthday, I'd also add don't try to blow off Valentines day either especially by saying "hell I thought our anniversary would replace Valentines Day" romance is a little different to the wife and that one still costs me at least once a year and I did it 20+ years ago. flowers mean something "even if they are already dead when you buy them", another line you might never want to use...
surfpup Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I'd also add don't try to blow off Valentines day either Trust me - never blow off Valentine's Day! Played correctly that holiday will result in the best sex of the year!
retrosurfer1959 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Trust me - never blow off Valentine's Day! Played correctly that holiday will result in the best sex of the year! Large diamonds also works real well for that. But Babe It's a holiday can always add interest to the conversation:d/
Dynadude Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Start fights so you can have grudge sex, and then make up sex.
Gitfidl Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I was married for 22 years and I have been unmarried for 23 so I am not sure I ought to be giving any advise. I don't think you ought to "give up" anything to be married. (you have no idea, incidentally, what the fair sex spend on personal maintenance but it is way MORE than the most expensive guitar you can purchase). Advise: (a) it's a roller coaster ride ( don't "engage" because you will always lose (just do what you want to do anyway), © kids are great -- the best thing you will ever do is kids -- it makes "sense" out of everything (even jobs), (d) don't take it too seriously, life is short and nobody wants to read your biography, (e) music makes your soul happy -- do it as much as you can (f ) try to find something to smile about every day (and ignore the bad stuff because it doesn't last) (g ) always carry a handkerchief and always be on top -- that way you can keep your nose clean and not screw up.
Boston004681 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 good for you!! hide all of 'em!!! haha!! u suck!!
Boston004681 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I was married for 22 years and I have been unmarried for 23. Really? Your old!!! HAHAHAHA!!! just kidding ok?!!!
Big Arm Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Marry your best friend as I did and you will always be thankful. Doesn't mean you won't have some tough days, but after 34 years with my best friend, I wouldn't trade it for anything else.
Slogold Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Any advice? Is the world as I know it going to abruptly end?I know one thing's for sure...no more high end guitars for a while after I say those dreaded words... PRENUPTIAL AGREEMENT!!!! MAKE SURE YOUR GUITARS ARE YOURS AND YOURS ALONE JUST IN CASE!!! CONGRATULATIONS IN ADVANCE.
Californiaman Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 I've been married now for 10 years. I was 35 and Jill was 34 when we were married. Together we have three beautiful children. Sure sometimes things don't go smoothly, it never does, but together we perceiver. The biggest advice I can give you is never forget your vows. Hold them close to the heart. Also, during the difficult times, never use the "D" word. You'll get through it together and it will make you wiser.
elessar820 Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Good luck. I'm getting married on Halloween and I'm really looking forward to it.
NeoConMan Posted March 7, 2009 Posted March 7, 2009 Californiaman is right on about the D word. NEVER throw that one around in anger, it will haunt you forever. I'll tell you more in a PM if you don't get it. I wish you luck. I married my best friend As far as money and buying things like guitars depends on the woman. My wife knows I love guitars and thinks that as far as addictions it's a pretty non-evasive one' date=' she has learned a ton about guitars can tell almost any brand by sight and most by sound, she's a perfect person to take guitar shopping since she has a good ear and definite educated opinions on tone, sustain and overall sound. Hawaii... Hmmm KOA [/quote'] Hah! Good stuff RS! We're very similar in that regard. I also bought most of my guitars before we married, she had become an enthusiast herself by then. She knows I'm a picky buyer and I won't settle for second best when I decide to whip out the wallet, she's still a farm girl at heart and doesn't spend money needlessly. Still, a diamond now and then for her, along with flowers for no reason keeps her happy. Like RS, my wife has become an important part of my guitar buying decisions. She doesn't just look at the pretty ones now. She found out that a $200 Epiphone can have a flame top as well.... She knows the difference. I'm probably better at giving divorce advice, seems I'm much better at that..... Hope you never need it Tim!
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