65 Casino Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Hey Cruz - Are the first symptoms anxiety attacks? If so, I am in the beginning of the dreaded pause. Mom got it early on in life and I think that was part of what caused the end of my parents marriage. It's like a full moon affect on a werewolf. My best description from memory. I lay low on the anxiety attacks and flashes, trying - when invited to be supportive and reassuring. My batting average is 50/50 right now. We talk a lot about change being inevitable, that is life. Talking about retirement helps but not in her "moments". Her mom has been supportive as well. My wife has already played twenty questions on that. I encouraged her to google up as much information as possible to know what is coming. That helped as she feels she is prepared to get through this time. Come to think of it, I need to google my side to be prepared. Women have a lot of changes in their lives for sure. Pregnancies, PMS, guitars and fishing rods...., menopause. Men o pause - that is the key. Put your life on pause and take cover! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
65 Casino Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Thanks Dennis. My sister had a rough time' date=' she's much older than me. She would lock herself in her bedroom for days. I felt sorry for my brother-in-law. I give him credit for sticking it out like he did. I'm surprised on how long menopause lasts. A couple of months is one thing but years is another. Its a torment I am glad I don't have to experience. I do crack a lot of jokes about my wife, but that's all it is, jokes. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I feel blessed that the lord has given her a major role in my life. So when it come to PMS, I just ride it out and go with the flow. Did you say YEARS? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bill Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Did you say YEARS? That's my understanding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bill Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Casino, we could start an East Coast support group. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
65 Casino Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 LMAO... Bill - We have to have a catchy name...while hijacking this post. LOL. Men O Pausers? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thundergod Posted November 20, 2009 Author Share Posted November 20, 2009 My wife is a guitar player herself. No problem here. I see a bigger problem... there's a slight chance she will love her guitars more Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanvillRob Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I do crack a lot of jokes about my wife' date=' but that's all it is, jokes. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I feel blessed that the lord has given her a major role in my life. So when it come to PMS, I just ride it out and [b']go with the flow[/b]. Not sure that applies during menopause. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cruznolfart Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Did you say YEARS? Casino' date=' it's been about 10 years since my wife's first symptoms. Usually a big change in her periods is the first clue. Hormonal roller-coaster follows very shortly after that. Hot flashes and leg-twitches came before the intense mood swings. And it's been said that a woman's change-of-life is similar in intensity to that of her own Mother. I don't know how that holds up, or if it's even close, but I pity my SIL...and I don't even like him. LOL! Best thing is what you're apparently doing; keeping it out in the discussion area instead of in the corner. Once it becomes a bugaboo, communication stops and friction results. It took some coaxing to get my wife to discuss it openly with me without her feeling I was being critical of her. Once she got over that, it got to be more of something we went through somewhat together, rather than in opposite corners. Sadly, one of the results is we seldom sleep together now because of her legs. I used to wonder why older folks took to sleeping apart...swore *I'd* NEVER be "that way". It's been said that if you want to make the gods laugh, tell them your plans. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Big Bill Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Sadly' date=' one of the results is we seldom sleep together now because of her legs. I used to wonder why older folks took to sleeping apart...swore *I'd* NEVER be "that way". It's been said that if you want to make the gods laugh, tell them your plans. "The best-laid plans of mice and men" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Allen Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I'm a lucky man. My wife will come to me and say, "You look like you need to play your guitar." As long as I take her to a chick flick every now and then, she let's me play for hours and hours. She even told me recently, "I don't think that's too expensive for a guitar you will play every day." God, I love her! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jefleppard Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 my current girlfriend wants to have nude photos taken of herself and my goldtop. i'm mostly concerned about her breaking the headstock. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanvillRob Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 my current girlfriend wants to have nude photos taken of herself and my goldtop. i'm mostly concerned about her breaking the headstock. tell her to use a strap. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NeoConMan Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Nude? The guitar will get all smudged up! :-) I'm a lucky man. My wife will come to me and say' date=' "You look like you need to play your guitar." She even told me recently, "I don't think that's too expensive for a guitar you will play every day." God, I love her![/quote'] She must be related to mine! Either that, or her parents are from the same mold that gives them 50+ years of marriage... Mine will come home and see pictures hanging crooked or stuff scooted around on the kitchen shelves. She'll give me the sly smile and say "I guess you were playing guitar, eh?" Now and then, some good high-volume therapy is just what the doctor ordered. My biggest effort for her in return? There's the odd flowers or gift, but I try to go with her to her folks' place for a visit now and then. She doesn't see them as much as she wants, and doesn't want to leave me to go visit if I'm off work. I'll go with her and just hang out, allowing her plenty of time to visit. That, and when she gets home and doesn't wanna cook I tell her to get in the truck and we'll drive to town. Her choice, even if it's only Chick Fil A - she loves that place! And church if I'm off on Sunday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shnate McDuanus Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Nude?The guitar will get all smudged up! :-) She must be related to mine! Either that' date=' or her parents are from the same mold that gives them 50+ years of marriage... Mine will come home and see pictures hanging crooked or stuff scooted around on the kitchen shelves. She'll give me the sly smile and say "I guess you were playing guitar, eh?" Now and then, some good high-volume therapy is just what the doctor ordered. My biggest effort for her in return? There's the odd flowers or gift, but I try to go with her to her folks' place for a visit now and then. She doesn't see them as much as she wants, and doesn't want to leave me to go visit if I'm off work. I'll go with her and just hang out, allowing her plenty of time to visit. That, and when she gets home and doesn't wanna cook I tell her to get in the truck and we'll drive to town. Her choice, even if it's only Chick Fil A - she loves that place! And church if I'm off on Sunday. [/quote'] Oh Neo, she sounds precious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swleary Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 My Fiancée went out and argued with me on a bass. Here I am looking at a Warwick Corvette ( $1700 Cdn.) and she is looking at a Warwick Corvette Bubinga ($2800) . She got me the Bubinga. Two weeks later , she says to me,"shouldn't you have a better amp? , I am like well ok. Last winter I bought a pocket pod but then you returned it for the pod xt. She thought the pod xt was a better price ratio. She asks me pretty much everytime she is going to do her own thing, if I am gonna play guitar while she sews (we share the same room) . You know the more and more I read this, the more and more I'm realizing I'm spoiled Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milod Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Good grief! From girlfriends and an apparent "youth angle" among members to... Gee, folks, it does seem some of us are aging a bit. <chuckle> Hmmmm. m Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cruznolfart Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Good grief! From girlfriends and an apparent "youth angle" among members to... Gee' date=' folks, it does seem some of us are aging a bit. <chuckle> Hmmmm. m [/quote'] No vexation without representation! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milod Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Cruzn... Yupper... But as I've said... there still are times I'd love to put on black jeans, T, crank up the tube amp and hit Rumble so hard it'd break eardrums within half a mile. <grin> Hmmmm. Maybe under that 3D topographical map that once was a face of a youth, the youth still lives? m Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shnate McDuanus Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Cruzn... Yupper... But as I've said... there still are times I'd love to put on black jeans' date=' T, crank up the tube amp and hit Rumble so hard it'd break eardrums within half a mile. <grin> Hmmmm. Maybe under that 3D topographical map that once was a face of a youth, the youth still lives? m [/quote'] Hey, if Gary Duncan can do it, surely you can too. Old guys rock! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milod Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 XDemonknight Ah, there is indeed no question of retained capability. <chuckle> It's more a matter of somehow managing to find the most appropriate time and place. Somehow nowadays folks figure just "sedate" blues are more appropriate for an old gray-head/ And that does indeed allow a degree of expression sufficient to dull the edge a bit. It's an odd paradox of not caring much for the current music of youth and wanting to blast down walls with the music of one's own. At times a bit of Bach, at times a country song; one night a nocturne of blues' remorse, the next a ragtime dance. <sigh> I haven't the slightest, I hate to admit, idea who Gary Duncan is. I take it he's rather younger than I am??? Hmmmm. m Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tazzboy Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I guess this why I enjoy being single so much of the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bluesguitar65 Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Any of you think there's a way to get them to get along? :- Most girlfriends I've had have been jealous of my guitars... one even took one and gave it away without my knowledge (when I found out I dumped her... so maybe she had good reason to be jealous[cool] ) Has any of you guys had any such experiences? Well' date=' were giving your GF plenty of attention? Women, require great deal of attention. If you give more attention to your guitar, of course your GF will be jelouse. Women are like guitars, you need to play them often, you know stroke them, play some "licks" on them, and when you put your finger or fingers just at the right places they scream with such high harmonics. Right when you plug your long or short cord right in her, she is ready to be played just turn her knob to ten and she will be begging for you to stroke her. If you have a whammy bar, boy look out, she'll be beggin you to use it with repeated motion. See, that is why your GF was jealous of your guitars, you weren't giving that kind of attention.:- See the similarities? Do you know where to plug your cord? [img']http://www.hotguitarist.com/girls/elaine/el10.jpg[/img] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketman Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I always try to fit something into the day for her.I once bought her a T-shirt at an airshow' date=' she sleeps in it to this day.[/quote'] You are a good man! My wife actually doesn't mind my talking about guitars because it gives her a break from me talking about my geeky work related stuff (he he he). She's the best! I've been married for 13 years and she'll still my best friend. It's gotten to the point where I can't even make a day trip without taking her with me because I miss her too much... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yoda Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Most guys get whinny about/feel threatened by my guitar playing (you guys get sooooooooo insecure about stuff) they whine about "up staging them". most guys seem to need to be reassured that they are good, or measure up, in guitar playing, and elsewhere if you get my drift. To sum it up, you guys need to be self assured, not all but most. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shnate McDuanus Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 XDemonknight Ah' date=' there is indeed no question of retained capability. <chuckle> It's more a matter of somehow managing to find the most appropriate time and place. Somehow nowadays folks figure just "sedate" blues are more appropriate for an old gray-head/ And that does indeed allow a degree of expression sufficient to dull the edge a bit. It's an odd paradox of not caring much for the current music of youth and wanting to blast down walls with the music of one's own. At times a bit of Bach, at times a country song; one night a nocturne of blues' remorse, the next a ragtime dance. <sigh> I haven't the slightest, I hate to admit, idea who Gary Duncan is. I take it he's rather younger than I am??? Hmmmm. m [/quote'] Gary Duncan was the rhythm guitarist for Quicksilver Messenger Service. I wrote up a review of a gig I saw him do last week--he's 63, so I don't know how that compares with yer age, but being a rather young guy, I'm not sure how being in one's sixties feels--or even, actually, in one's twenties. EDIT: Here's the thread, just for reference. It's rather too long, I'll admit: http://forums.gibson.com/default.aspx?g=posts&t=24402 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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