JohnMac Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 During a recent visit to a young doctor the topic turned to guitars. We discussed playing styles, favorite artists and local guitar shops. Then he commented that he got married about six months ago and hasn't had much time to play. Hopefully, after some of the "glow" wears off he'll be able to get back to it...and live happily ever after with his new bride. Cheers! John
TommyK Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Not sure 'glow' has anything to do with it. I suspect, given the newlyness of his wed, they're too busy for 'glow' just now.
Duende Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 life can be hard! you just have to have a good balance between sausaging and guitar - it ain't easy!
AlanH Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Not sure 'glow' has anything to do with it. I suspect, given the newlyness of his wed, they're too busy for 'glow' just now. Isn't that just what the Black Widow does? I'm with the OP. The man is doomed!
EVOL! Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I'm with the OP. The man is doomed! I second that. When you marry someone you take the whole person and they take the whole you. If they cannot at the very least accept your love of guitar and music, GET OUT NOW! Run like you're being chased by hungry wolves. It is only going to get worse, build resentment, and leave you a milquetoast shell of your former self.
JohnMac Posted February 7, 2012 Author Posted February 7, 2012 Way back when, a friend's wife told him it was the guitar and dog or her. Wonder if he ever regretted his decision? BTW, don't get me wrong. I've been married to the same woman for 36 years. I met her in a bar where she was playing in an acoustic trio.
EVOL! Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 Reminds me of a Black Flag song My girl friend asks me which one I like better Six pack! I hope the answer won't upset her Six pack!
57classic Posted February 7, 2012 Posted February 7, 2012 I met my ex wife because of my guitar, I was in the Enlisted Barracks and she was in the room above mine and that 2203 and SG really did have a mind of its own. She came down to complain and stayed the night, or at least till 0500. All we did was chat then she came to a few shows and it was cool to have arm candy and she liked the guitar part also; until....... When we got married it was very difficult to be in bands since she was very jealous towards the girls I would meet. I never strayed while I was married, although when we were legally separated I had a field day playing the guitar hero. The monster in law also made my life a living hell since being in a band was for children etc....... I am so glad I got rid of that dead weight. Hahaha, at least you're not bitter.
AlanH Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Hahaha, at least you're not bitter. Therapy is required. A visit to the Pricess Leia thread ought to do it.
Buxom Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Reminds me of a Black Flag song My girl friend asks me which one I like better Six pack! I hope the answer won't upset her Six pack! Holy ****. I Love You (My War)
DanvillRob Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I met my ex wife because of my guitar, I was in the Enlisted Barracks and she was in the room above mine and that 2203 and SG really did have a mind of its own. She came down to complain and stayed the night, or at least till 0500. All we did was chat then she came to a few shows and it was cool to have arm candy and she liked the guitar part also; until....... When we got married it was very difficult to be in bands since she was very jealous towards the girls I would meet. I never strayed while I was married, although when we were legally separated I had a field day playing the guitar hero. The monster in law also made my life a living hell since being in a band was for children etc....... I am so glad I got rid of that dead weight. I ALWAYS say, "Never marry a groupie". I met my first wife at a concert..... We got married...and I got drafted. When I was sent to 'Nam, she went back to being a groupie! My wife and I met while I was walking across a parking lot with a friend. He said to me, "Quick! Whistle!" I did, and these two girls in a yellow Camaro were driving by and they stopped. We made a "group date" for the next night, and when we went to pick them up, we paired up...and the rest is history. She said I nailed down the deal when I took her to my house, and played the piano for her!
pfox14 Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I've been married for 13 years and don't find enough time to play. Sad
milod Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 Well... as I noted in the jazz guitarist thread, one lives and what happens, happens. Yeah, boy or girl, if your "partner" gives the "it's either that or me," the only long-term decision is to open the door, 'cuz it'll always be that sort or discussion. In fact, I'd say the same thing about even more complex relationships such as bands, too. On the other hand, life changes. We all pick different pathways that may have been good, or not so good, but the fact is that we picked them and there's no going back the same way. The doctor didn't say he was refused guitar time, unless I missed reading it. And I know in my own life there have been times when pickin' literally could not be in the picture for varying periods of time because of "career" stuff. OTOH, I had a shot or so at a road musician's life and didn't take the bait at the time. For good or bad, that's how it goes. m
Rich W Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 he commented that he got married about six months ago and hasn't had much time to play Here's Buddy Guy's take on this: "You have to spend more time with that guitar than you do with your wife. That's why I'm by myself now. I had to come up with a divorce, because my wife would tell me, "You're putting too much time into the guitar and ain't givin' me none." And I said, "You go, I'm keepin' my guitar." Rolling Stone interview (2005) http://www.rollingstone.com/music/news/rock-and-roll-hall-of-fame-2005-buddy-guy-20050308
Rich W Posted February 8, 2012 Posted February 8, 2012 I'm lucky. My wife's father is a pro musician; and she grew up with the adults in her life spending their days practicing and writing songs. To her, this is normal ... and she doesn't even raise an eyebrow when I come with new gear, and when I play for 2 or 3 hours a day.
milod Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 Rich... I have a lady friend who's a pro violinist and pianist. I've seen her practice 8-10 hours just plain losing all track of time. Her husband figures out other stuff to do. OTOH, both also are "grownups" and "partners." You're lucky, too... Another option is the sort one finds with our forum's Bob "Notes" Norton and his wife who have a full time pro duo. I had a lady friend - actually she was my Dad's rural one-room school and family friend - who was a career violinist. Never married and as far as I can tell, never had anything that long-term. Her comment to me over dinner one evening years ago when we got together when she was on tour was that she envied me playing music I wanted to, when I wanted to... We live, we make choices, the choices make us... we live. m
JohnMac Posted February 9, 2012 Author Posted February 9, 2012 I feel fortunate. My wife has endured a number of time consuming hobbies. First it was old Harley Davidsons, then guitar, and now I spend a ridiculous amount of time on repairing vintage audio gear. Still have the guitars and a motorcycle too. My wife taught music in public schools and now gives private piano lessons at home and plays a little guitar too. 10x more musical talent than I. I don't know how things will work out for the young doctor. He's newly married and is running a medical practice so he has a pretty full plate. As we talked about guitars and some of the local music venues I got the sense that he is a bit anxious about gaining some time for personal interests. Time will tell. J
Rich W Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 We live, we make choices, the choices make us... A friend who is heavily into sailboat racing once told me, "you gotta marry smart." Then you can keep on keepin' on with your hobbies and passions.
milod Posted February 9, 2012 Posted February 9, 2012 From my own sailing days: What's the definition of a boat? A hole in the water into which you pour money. m
JohnMac Posted February 9, 2012 Author Posted February 9, 2012 I think Hobbies are important. The key is to find the proper balance between them and the rest of your life. I'm not too good at that. I tend to throw myself into my hobbies and spend too much time on them. At least my current hobby of messing with old audio stuff pays for itself and then some. I've been able to kick a little dough back into the household and sock a little away. That helps with the WAF. And I have some cool gear to play with.
cookieman15061 Posted February 10, 2012 Posted February 10, 2012 Look ya train em write and after a few years they'll be buying ya your guitars.
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