S t e v e Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 need peeps to talk to as i'm at home and have no one else, basicly i said she was a bad parent (to our 7 yr old son)...he runs rings around her and she has no authority over him, if she tells him off he just laughs and i have to step in every time to stamp my authority...but it has made me look like the bully out of us two which is not fair, i love my son and want the best for him but sometimes i feel like i'm a lone parent and my wife and son are brother and sister :( sorry, i know it's a touchy subject for the lounge but wondered if anyone else has had to deal with a situation like this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Searcy Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Sounds like your son has you two devided. He's won. You and the wife need a plan that you agree on and he needs consistancey from both of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChanMan Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Yep. Make sure you talk to your kids afterwards. It seems funny to explain logic to young children but they will appreciate, and love you, for it. Also, apologize to your wife. It will go a long way towards making it right, and you don't want her being extra harsh on your child just to prove to you that she has balls. Voice of experience talking here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Silenced Fred Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 As a kid where, when growing up, it was my mother that was always stricter and my dad was always the more easy going of the two, you have to unite. He will make fights happen for no reason, I did as a kid, and I never understood why. Like Chan said, talk to him, because when you're a kid, you don't understand why Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cookieman15061 Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Really you wanna bring this to a bunch of pinhead musicians? Steve, Steve, Steve,.........never ever bring family issues to an online forum buddy. Best of luck to ya brother. Disagreements/ work em out Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DAS44 Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Consistency is key, one of you can't be stricter than the other. You both need to put your foot down. Growing up in a house where my mom is reasonable, though still strict, and my dad is never anything but negative, insulting etc, I know how I wish it would've been. Both parents need to be on the same page. The whole parenting thing is too complex for a simple forum post eh? :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dem00n Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Looks like someone isnt getting some tonight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DAS44 Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Looks like someone isnt getting some tonight. What, did you find a mirror? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lespaulj45 Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Does this mean that there is no in depth marriage counseling included with the membership in Gibson Forums? Who woulda thought that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dem00n Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 What, did you find a mirror? Id do me, would you do me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tazzboy Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Normal I don't get advice, but I agree with some sound like sonny boy there has you to divided. But calling her a bad parent was wrong. I agree she needs to enforce the rules in punishment just like you do. But you too need to be a team not against each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Riverside Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Sounds like your son has you two devided. He's won. Normal I don't get advice, but I agree with some sound like sonny boy there has you to divided. While I agree with the above that say you two need a consistent plan, I'd guess that the kid did not devise this state of affairs so he could "win". I rather suspect that he's found himself in the middle of something he didn't create. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimbabig Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Id do me, would you do me? I'd love a good movie with some Dem00n on Dem00n action. maybe you could do a P00rn movie. (for any new members who may misinterpret my message, this is EXTREME sarcasm) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveinspain Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 Hope this helps... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
milod Posted May 15, 2011 Share Posted May 15, 2011 From the perspective of learning theory, children that age are generally very, very literal and will easily catch on to inconsistencies among social inputs from parents, school, etc. Which is why... I figure pretty much that kids are like elephants. They're kinda fun to watch on occasion, but I'm glad I don't have to feed and pick up after one on a regular basis. m Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
damian Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Steveo, sit down, take a deep breath, have a couple of drinks, and.......... ........... Kids are pretty smart, seems like he's good at the deviding you two up, regardless of so-called parenting skills......Gleem what you can from the advice given; as with any thread, there's some good advice in it....... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gilliangirl Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Please understand that I'm not here to say I don't believe you, but it's really hard to know the whole picture without hearing your wife's side of things. I'd like to sit down with her. Is she saying "Steve, you're way too hard on him!"? There's his side, there's her side, then there's somewhere in the middle, which is where you guys want to be. You need to sit down with her and reach some sort of consensus on a plan, then stick to it. And yelling at each other won't accomplish that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
duane v Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Stand by your wife man...... You've gotta teach young boys to respect females, and that comes from you the father. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saturn Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Really you wanna bring this to a bunch of pinhead musicians? Steve, Steve, Steve,.........never ever bring family issues to an online forum buddy. Best of luck to ya brother. Disagreements/ work em out That's why I rarely ask for, or give out "life" advice here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stein Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Stand by your wife man...... You've gotta teach young boys to respect females, and that comes from you the father. With no kids I am reluctant to answer. But this here is a true story, and it works both ways, as in wife to husband as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neilpanda Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 uhh, hmm... *sigh* uhh... what Searcy said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
retrosurfer1959 Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Your lucky to be alive right now - I would have never said that to my wife during an argument out of a combination of both respect and honestly fear - If I would screwed up so bad and blurted out something like that i would have had to just get in the car and keep going never looking back. That's the kind of comment a woman will always remember and never forgive. Don't know how it is there but in Arizona it's community property so I'd be sitting in a hotel deciding which half of my belongings I could live without. You should claim Tourette's or maybe tell her you think somethings wrong and you want to get a cat scan to see what medical reason there could be for saying something like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcmurray Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Kids (boys in particular) often learn how to treat their mother by watching how their father treats her. Not saying this is your scenario, but I've seen it many times before in this sort of situation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcmurray Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Stand by your wife man...... You've gotta teach young boys to respect females, and that comes from you the father. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DAS44 Posted May 16, 2011 Share Posted May 16, 2011 Stand by your wife man...... You've gotta teach young boys to respect females, and that comes from you the father. Even extends so far as the grandmother! Very wise words Duane. when in a relationship, and this is how I've never ended one angrily, I never say anything that could be construed as mean, in an argument. Generally I let her get it all out, I have to listen, and then we have a proper discussion out of it (I'm very mellow until a certain point, and that point is hard to get to). Never say something that you might regret in the heat of an argument, it's like poking an already angry bear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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